Wednesday, November 16, 2011

When less than perfect, is just perfect.

I am learning that my house doesn't need to be immaculate to entertain friends. Visiting Stephanie's home, and experiencing the hospitality and love of her family in the midst of normal live, ministered to me in a profound way.  I want my friends to be a part of my real life too, and in my real life, my house is not always perfect. I hope you love me anyway ;)

Perfection is my enemy. I know that you've heard me say that several times, but it is a mantra that I have to keep rolling through my mind. The problem is, there is a lot of joy to be found just shy of perfection. If I never allow people into my home, because I feel it is not spic and span, then I am missing out on valuable community and friendship. 

Today is the last bit in my mini-series about cultivating life within our homes. I talked a little bit about Stephanie in my post 'Perspectives on home from a mother and daughter, which was actually written by her daughter Shay. Now we get to hear from Stephanie herself, and homemaker and momma extraordinaire.

This is what she has to say:

I must admit, when asked to write a blog post I was quite overwhelmed, not in writing the actual post but finding the time to do it!  I really don't have time now as I should be preparing for Classical Conversations class tomorrow, making a casserole for a friends baby shower tomorrow, grading math for three teenagers for the last week, taking the supplements that I forgot this morning, helping one work on his scholarship resumes, drinking my water quota and MANY other things but instead I was checking out my new pinterest account which reminded me of Lindseys request and I guess now is the time.  She asked me several questions and I will endeavor to offer a few answers as the Lord leads.  

On making my home a home to visitors:

First I'd like to say that I really love company, my children love company and my husband "kind of" likes company!  As a military family, we have had to "make do" in many of our homes, they were LESS than inviting!  When we purchased our first place, it was a 117 acre farm with a two bedroom/1 bath farmhouse.  NO ROOM AT THE INN!  But......we found a way to have company.  We planned bonfires, swimming parties, played paintball, had cookouts and did not let the lack of space deter our plans.  When we moved in to our current home, we were so excited to be able to have holidays at our house, plan bigger events, I even hosted a wedding rehearsal dinner.  The Lord has blessed us immensely and we do like to share.  With ALL that being said, WE LIKE TO COOK AND EAT and usually company does too!  I have purposed NOT to have an immaculate house, not that it is possible anyway.  I take guests on a tour of the house even if beds are not made, floors are messy or clothes are not folded.  I really like for people to know the REAL us and to know that if you wait until................IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN!   

Advice.......... INVITE, eat what you have in the fridge, throw the clothes in the closet, roll the dog hair off the couch and make a pot of coffee. 

Lastly, one of my favorite studies on hospitality is written by Nancy Campbell from the Above Rubies ministry titled "The Family Meal Table".  


  1. good! definitely challenges me: realizing "perfect" will never happen. might as well invite people over, anyway!

  2. "Purposed not to have an immaculate house." How freeing! Thanks for sharing. And Lindsey, great to find you on here through Cold Hands, Warm Hearts. I just ordered a lil goodie just for you, hopefully it'll arrive soon and I can send your way :)

  3. This is awesome! Having a dog makes it tough to have an immaculate house, and a baby too I imagine! <3